Resources for the Families of Those Suffering with Addiction

Unfortunately, substance use disorder doesn’t affect just one type of person — it impacts people in all walks of life, and most of them have families.

It is a serious national public health problem affecting approximately 45 million families. Individually, 21 million people have a substance use disorder and 17 million have alcohol use disorder, and it has devastating consequences.  

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, a staggering 64,000 people died from drug overdoses each year, and 88,000 died from alcohol-related causes.

Addiction is a family disease because it affects the whole family: it wreaks havoc in the household environment and in familial/romantic relationships. A family home that should be loving and nurturing can become stressful and confusing, where positive values are replaced with distrust, frustration, and resentment. It also places children at risk of developing issues with substance use, as well as mental and physical problems in their teens and later life. 

We call addiction a disease because it is progressive and only continues to worsen over time if left untreated. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Over 23 million Americans live in long-term recovery and have successfully resolved a drug or alcohol problem. This does, however, require the family to seek recovery together.

How we can support loved ones with substance use disorder

We can support loved ones struggling with addiction — wherever they are in their recovery journey — in a number of ways:

  • Intervention. If the person refuses to seek help but is causing significant disruption within the family, and you fear for their safety and that of you and the family it might be helpful to arrange an intervention.

  • Understanding SUD. Learn about substance use disorder to better understand that it is a medical condition. If a person with SUD feels punished or shamed for their behavior it can push them away, even if you are trying to help.

  • Being supportive of recovery. Support a loved one’s decision to seek formal treatment, whether that is best achieved through a mutual-aid meeting or inpatient rehabilitation.

  • Make time for recovery. Be available to speak to family members when they are in treatment, by setting aside time for them and showing your support.

  • Seek your own recovery. Whether you realize it or not, you will also need help to recover while your loved one is seeking treatment. You may need help to create and enforce healthy boundaries, learn how to make your care a priority and how to put yourself first, and understand the role addiction plays in a relationship. That may be through professional therapeutic support, or through a mutual-aid program.

  • Work together as a family to support long-term recovery. This involves managing expectations, attending family therapy, sharing household tasks, allowing time for continued recovery activities, trying to do things together as a family like taking walks and eating a meal together, and trying to implement healthy routines like regular sleeping patterns and healthy eating.

  • Language matters. Be conscious of the language you use to describe substance use disorder. Refrain from using stigmatizing terms like “addict,” “alcoholic,” “clean,” and “relapse.” It’s best to use person-centered language. See below for a helpful guide

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Information and resources

There are a lot of resources out there for families and partners of loved ones suffering with substance use disorders. It can be hard to differentiate between them, so we’ve categorized them into helpful sections:

Education & Information

Interventions

The most common interventions used by practitioners are ARISE and the Johnson model

Online support groups

Facebook has a host of recovery support groups for families, including Voices to End Addiction & Inspire Recovery, FamilyRx, as well as online versions of mutual-aid meetings.

Helpful organizations

In-person support groups and information

Finding treatment 

Mutual-aid support for the person suffering

If your loved one doesn’t go to treatment, or wants to supplement their therapy with a peer-based support group, they can go to any number of mutual-aid groups, including:

There are also religious and culturally specific groups that individuals can attend, including: 

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Located in Portland, OR, Olivia Pennelle (Liv) is an experienced writer, journalist, and coach. She is the founder of the popular site Liv’s Recovery Kitchen, a site dedicated to helping people flourish in their recovery. Liv is passionate about challenging limiting mentalities and empowering others to direct their own lives, health, and recovery. You can find her articles across the web on podcasts and addiction recovery websites, including The Fix, Recovery.org, Ravishly, and The Recovery Village. Liv was recently featured in VICE.