Why You Don’t Need to Hit Rock Bottom to Start Getting Better
What does hitting rock bottom actually mean? And do you definitely have to hit one to stop drinking or using?
Stefanie Wilder-Taylor
Stefanie Wilder-Taylor is an author, standup comedian, TV personality, writing teacher, and co-host of the popular podcasts, For Crying Out Loud, Rose Pricks, and Bored A.F. She has authored five books, starting with the irreverent best-seller, Sippy Cups Are Not for Chardonnay: And Other Things I Had to Learn as a New Mom. She’s talked sobriety on Oprah, GMA, 20/20, Dr. Oz, Dr. Phil, CNN, and more.
She lives in Los Angeles with her husband and three sporadically charming children.
Getting Sober Comes with a Tidal Wave of Anxiety
I thought there was no way that if people felt like I was feeling they could have stayed sober. Who could just sit with crazy thoughts coming a mile a minute, heart beating like a hamster and not take something to fix it?
What No One Ever Tells You About Addiction
Before I quit drinking, I mean really quit drinking, I wasn’t convinced I needed to quit drinking. I thought maybe, possibly, there was a slight chance I should but I wasn’t convinced. So I found myself looking online at quizzes or lists of warning signs that could help me determine if I was truly an alcoholic or if maybe I was just drinking a little too much due to stress and didn’t need to quit entirely.
Real Signs I Had a Drinking Problem
When our drinking is out of control, we can blind ourselves to the indications that we need help. Looking back, I can identify real signs
How I Found My People
During the times in my life when I felt most alone, finding my people—the community who understood and empathized—was lifesaving. In 2004 I had my
Lies I Told Myself About My Drinking
Stefanie Wilder-Taylor talks about the “trying to quit drinking” rollercoaster, and all the ways your brain tricks you to rationalize having a drink.
Having Drink Cravings? Here’s What I Do To Fight Them Off
Here’s a very useful tool from Stefanie Wilder-Taylor’s recovery toolbox that helps nip those drink cravings in the bud.
Quitting Drinking is the Easy Part – It’s What’s Next That’s Hard
It’s really easy to quit drinking. It’s the staying quit that’s the struggle.
I Fell for This Huge Lie About Drinking – Just Like Everyone Else
For most people contemplating quitting drinking, a primary concern is how am I going to do the things I used to do sober? It can seem daunting to even sit on the couch and watch Netflix without a glass of wine in hand let alone go to a party and God forbid, socialize sober!
Why Addiction Recovery is Exactly Like Whac-A-Mole
A funny thing happens when people quit drinking or even cut down significantly: other addictions tend to appear in their place. In recovery, we call this the Whac-A-Mole syndrome – named for the arcade game where you hit a mole over the head with a mallet only to have three more pop up until pretty soon you’re overwhelmed with moles and you just need a drink to calm down!
When I Knew I Was An Alcoholic
A few days after I made the decision to stop drinking, I went to a 12-step meeting. I didn’t want to go. I’d been to meetings before with the intention of supporting of a friend and I didn’t care for it.
How Telling the Truth Helped Me Get Sober
I quit drinking 7 years and 7 months ago or 2,791 days ago – but who’s counting right? A few days after I made the decision to stop, I wrote about it on my blog Babyonbored because in addition to having a problem with alcohol, I also have a tendency to overshare. In the entry, I explained how my favorite stress reliever, anxiety reducer and daily treat had become a nightly obsession.