Karen Damian wrote this helpful blog about how you can include your sober friends or family members in parties where alcohol will be served.
Karen Damian has a son in recovery and feels that it is a privilege to share the ups and downs of addiction with other parents.
Having a loved one in recovery is such a blessing but navigating the holiday season and integrating your now sober loved one back into family gatherings can be daunting to think about.
In an ideal world, we would like to think before we respond. This can be difficult when you are dealing with an already emotionally charged situation with a person who is not thinking straight.
Often when substance use disorder is present in the family system, we find ourselves distanced from a sense of gratitude. We may long for the days before our loved ones struggled and resent the fact that words like boundaries and codependency became a normal part of our language.
I remember when I found out my son was first smoking marijuana. Everyone said its a phase kids go through and it is no big deal, so I didn’t tell my friends or family. After all, I did not want my son to be labeled an addict and have them think poorly of him.
I remember 3 years ago when my son’s addiction was really bad. He was living in my house and would sleep all day, refuse to work, and would be up all night wandering around the house keeping me awake and irritated every night.
At the end of 2018 my son went into the best rehab our money could buy. We thought this would be the answer to our prayers but the truth is, it’s not that simple.